What a Difference a Day Makes!
Twenty four hours and a world of difference in how the day started! The only thing good about how yesterday started was the fact that Tianna did make the bus. Her margin was pretty tight; she got up at 6:40 and I definitely violated the speed limit getting her to the bus stop. We could see the bus from the top of the hill as Tianna pleaded, "faster, faster." Thank goodness there wasn't too much fog, fog on our road makes me nervous...
We have been experimenting with different morning routines, and it is really peaceful (for the most part, at least peaceful in the sibling sense) when Tianna gets on the bus, is out the door, I can sip on a cup of coffee (the first of too many) and then go in and wake up Nicole about 25 minutes later and then deliver her. Not too much driving, which from a time and gas perspective is a good thing. But I do feel sorry for Tianna getting up so early, and everyone is grumpy the less sleep they have!
I did experiment with driving Tianna to school a couple of times this week, but there are several factors to be considered when trying to approach how to make this win win all the way around. I won't bore you with what they are, but let's just say to make it work for everyone I have a window of about two minutes to get everyone out of the house.
Yesterday was a nightmare, delivered I am certain to provide me with more boundary practice before going to work with the Counselor on boundaries and Nicole issues. I am happy to report I held my ground, used a gentle voice the entire time as Nicole pitched a fit worthy of an Oscar nomination and never raised my voice once, even with my mother who added several comments under her breath. I held the line with her too. Nicole was late to school, (oh well) but I never once faltered. From a shade of gray waffler this was a major victory. At one point she was saying since she was late she wasn't going to school, and my mom kept saying sarcastic and mean spirited things despite my request to please stop or go downstairs, so I just said to both of them, "Well, if you aren't going to school, and you aren't going to stop being negative or go downstairs, why don't you both join me at the counselor? That would be great!)" That got things moving...
So this morning when we all slept in, I announced to both girls that I would be leaving at 7:25 with whoever was ready. If they weren't ready they would be late, and if Nicole missed the ride then Howie would take her (an unacceptable option to her for some reason...) and we left on time without a peep and enjoyed wonderful conversation full of laughter minus the pop station. It was delightful.
I couldn't believe it! Driving the two hen pecking sisters to school in the morning a delight? Pinch me. No pop music. Pinch me. Smiles and more laughter. Pinch me again.
Boundaries are a wonderful thing.
We have been experimenting with different morning routines, and it is really peaceful (for the most part, at least peaceful in the sibling sense) when Tianna gets on the bus, is out the door, I can sip on a cup of coffee (the first of too many) and then go in and wake up Nicole about 25 minutes later and then deliver her. Not too much driving, which from a time and gas perspective is a good thing. But I do feel sorry for Tianna getting up so early, and everyone is grumpy the less sleep they have!
I did experiment with driving Tianna to school a couple of times this week, but there are several factors to be considered when trying to approach how to make this win win all the way around. I won't bore you with what they are, but let's just say to make it work for everyone I have a window of about two minutes to get everyone out of the house.
Yesterday was a nightmare, delivered I am certain to provide me with more boundary practice before going to work with the Counselor on boundaries and Nicole issues. I am happy to report I held my ground, used a gentle voice the entire time as Nicole pitched a fit worthy of an Oscar nomination and never raised my voice once, even with my mother who added several comments under her breath. I held the line with her too. Nicole was late to school, (oh well) but I never once faltered. From a shade of gray waffler this was a major victory. At one point she was saying since she was late she wasn't going to school, and my mom kept saying sarcastic and mean spirited things despite my request to please stop or go downstairs, so I just said to both of them, "Well, if you aren't going to school, and you aren't going to stop being negative or go downstairs, why don't you both join me at the counselor? That would be great!)" That got things moving...
So this morning when we all slept in, I announced to both girls that I would be leaving at 7:25 with whoever was ready. If they weren't ready they would be late, and if Nicole missed the ride then Howie would take her (an unacceptable option to her for some reason...) and we left on time without a peep and enjoyed wonderful conversation full of laughter minus the pop station. It was delightful.
I couldn't believe it! Driving the two hen pecking sisters to school in the morning a delight? Pinch me. No pop music. Pinch me. Smiles and more laughter. Pinch me again.
Boundaries are a wonderful thing.
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